I mentioned sometime ago that I am attending a Life Script Review class at SACE. Now onto the 4th of 6 sessions, participants have been asked to share their personal life stories so that others can help identify repeated patterns. This is very much like the sandplay therapy which I practice where I try to identify repeated themes in the children's stories.
Having heard 6 accounts of personal history (all participants are above 50 years old ), one observation I made is the presence of some form of mild discontent or regret in all except for one. So for those who are single and have had successful careers the regret was not having a richer social life. For those who missed out on higher education they wondered what they would have become had they focused more on education, despite having spent good years nurturing a warm family. Then of course there are some who just feel something is lacking in their life which they can not really define. I see this as a general disappointment for failing to discover one's full potential be it in intellectual/occupational wellness or emotional/social wellness.
Two other common traits are evident across lives. A stable childhood with good bonding and support clearly provides a strong foundation to meet challenges and withstand hardship. However for those who came from dysfunctional families, the saving grace is spiritual faith which helped them rise from the ashes to steer towards a lighted path.
Another common trait is a vouch not to repeat their parents' "mistakes". Those whose lives were scripted by their parents allowed their children full liberty to choose their own paths. Those who did not receive sufficient parental attention or love in their childhood re-compensate instead their own children by sacrificing their career.
The course is still ongoing and people are beginning to share more of their private lives including illnesses etc. So far one very inspirational take away for me is how some people step up to critical life events purely by brute forcing themselves to adopt the right attitude and to do the right thing for themselves and for their close ones. This reminds me of Viktor Frankl, the holocaust psychiatrist survivor and his famous quote:
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”
Everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
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Everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/viktorefr131417.html
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Everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/viktorefr131417.html
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/viktorefr131417.html
Everything can be taken
from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/viktorefr131417.html
Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/v/viktorefr131417.html
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