mo qi (husband & wife)

Now my master of the Chinese language is probably less than that of a primary 3 student . However I believe I am using the right words to describe what I witness this morning between a couple in my taiji class.

The man is about mid to late forties and the wife early forties perhaps. They are my classmates in taiji class. I have often observed that even as they sauntered into class they will be chatting and will exchange the "you know what I mean" glances before they take their respective position in class.
Today they were rather late. The husband immediately followed our movements after taking his position. The wife carried out her own warming up exercises instead even though she stood in line, ignoring what the class was doing. When their eyes met both faces broke out into smiles, one of gentle rebuke and another that of a girlish rebel.


A thought suddenly came to my mind "This is a very very lucky and blessed couple". Looks like they are still able to maintain the humour in their relationship. I think if you have a spouse whom you really enjoy being with for many years into your old age, you are just so blessed. When the children are big and the empty nest syndrome surfaces, it is often a very exacting transition for a couple. This is the time when the common topic "children" is no longer available. The couple is left to talk about their own individual focus which they now discover is so different. However they can of course learn to give and take and make things work. They can make an effort to ignore their differences and consciously look out for activities they both enjoyed. They can then spend some time doing these activities together whilst giving space to each other. But what I am saying it is so good if the "mo qi" comes naturally. Dictionary explains "mo qi" as "tacitly in agreement" (haha that is the best dictionary I have at home)

PS. please correct me if i used the words wrongly