I spoke to the father of a student whom I counselled. The father asked me how to motivate his son. He said he had tried using gifts like bicylcles as a reward for doing well,but to no avail. I told him we had to find where the boy's interest lies and then I beat around the bush to avoid answering.
Honestly, I had tried to find out where the boy's interest lies and frankly it was only play ie. computer games and TV. However I also sense he was not really mad about play too. So it really is a lack of interest in everything. It is so sad that at such a young age there is a lack of passion or interest. At a loss (sigh! struggling apprentice counsellor has this problem), I resort to books. Now a few points I found out and want to share:
Very often underachievers are reacting to major problems within the family, some are responding to difficulties with peers and others are in a head on conflict with the school system, and some face problems in more than one of these areas. These underlying issues need to be tackled before we can even work on motivating them.
Only then can we talk about helping them to:
Have a Vision - (and how achievement at school can connect with this mental image of their future)
Develop a commitment or a mission
Plan and follow through
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