When a man acts in accordance with social norm to boost his ego or to gain social standing even though he feels such acts are against his inner nature, he is being egoistic and is moving away from his individuation. Individuation is being the unique individual that one is or in other words being oneself. Carl Jung is of the view that individuation is necessary for the holistic development of a person and to be free from complexes.
"Here one may ask, perhaps, why it is so desirable that a man should be individuated. Not only is it desirable, it is absolutely indispensable, because, through his contamination with others, he falls into situations and commits actions which bring him into disharmony with himself. From all states of unconscious contamination... there is begotten a compulsion to be and to act in a way contrary to one’s own nature. Accordingly a man can neither be at one with himself nor accept responsibility for himself. He feels himself to be in a degrading, unfree, unethical condition. But the disharmony with himself is precisely the neurotic and intolerable condition from which he seeks to be delivered, and deliverance from this condition will come only when he can be and act as he feels is comfortable with his true self. People have a feeling for these things, dim and uncertain at first, but growing ever stronger and clearer with progressive development. When a man can say of his states and actions, ‘As I am, so I act,’ he can be at one with himself, even though it be difficult, and he can accept responsibility for himself even though he struggle against it. We must recognize that nothing is more difficult to bear than oneself."-Carl Jung
The last sentence of the paragraph above connects me to what I read about Kyudo, the Japanese art of archery, "the archer's selfish attachment to the target, which is the source of mental agitation, must be faced squarely and overcome....The confrontation with the target is thus the confrontation with one's own mind".
"It aims at surpassing oneself, the target and the bow in order to reach one's true self".
In my own experience the need for individuation grows stronger towards the second half of one's life although many people do feel the need much earlier in life. It may explain for the discontentment one feels with one's life as if something is missing. This may account for many a mid career change or spiritual pursuits. In the case where such needs are projected onto external objects they may surface in the form of addictions like engagement with fast cars or young sexual partners etc. A therapist was once asked by a prominent client as to whether he should leave his wife and family for a young and vivacious lady he was having an affair with. The therapist suggested that the client reflect upon the characteristics of his mistress which he was in love with; and consider whether the same characteristics may represent some aspects of his inner self which had been suppressed by his ego all those years. Example of such could be the free spiritedness or creativity of youth which were sacrificed for career advancement.
Perhaps one should not wait for the discontentment to snowball to such a magnitude resulting in the need for a radical shift in lifestyle. Acquiring an awareness of one's true nature and aiming to be authentic to one self along the way will guide one to act in such a way as to bring about harmony. For example a person whose circumstances make it impossible for him to pursue an artistic career (which is his innate wish) can pursue art as a hobby and consciously make time to develop it.
A 70 year old lady once lamented that she could not fulfil her lifelong wish to sky dive. Her therapist suggested that she applied her imagination in the form of symbols or looked for a substitute activity that embodied the thrill and risk taking spirit she had so wished but denied. I guess we should not wait till we are 70 to draw a long list of what we have missed in the "unlived life".
Saturday, February 4, 2012
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Responses to Hard Talk
You can pick a skill or 2 on how to evade probing questions or anwer hard hitting questions when you listen to BBC's Hard Talk. In the program the reporter interviews prominent or newsworthy people often grilling them to uncover the truth.
The following are some ways which the interviewees handle them:
1) Repeatedly reiterate prepared answers. When challenged by the reporter for not really answering the question, simply retort "your question is irrelevant".
2) When probed as to the cause of certain failures, briefly remark that the situation has been very challenging then promptly and continuously focus on the steps which have already been taken to remedy or improve the situation.
3) When the reporter persistently wants to uncover the cause of some events, remarks like "this is an issue that requires context, it must be viewed in the new context" helps.
4) Motherhood statements and vague terms like "structural reforms are being taken" sound good without giving away any thing.
5)When pressed for more specific or concrete steps that have been taken, comment that the technicalities or details have yet to be finalised and can not be disclosed.
6)When reporter challenged one's statements by quoting comments from ordinary citizens that indicate otherwise, retort that individual views is not representative. When reporter quotes opinion from other prominent people resort to "it's a matter of judgement" or "well, once upon a time people thought the world is flat".
7) When queried about some bad image, admit "we do have a lot to do" or "the issue is rather complicated" but list all the things that have gone well including procedures or regulations which have always been in place.
8)When grilled for what will happen next, say " I am not a foreteller ".
9) When asked to comment about some personal wrong doings, deny without flinching and ask for concrete evidence. When challenged by the reporter that some other well known figures believe of one's wrong doings, remark "There is a lot of misrepresentation here, I don’t have to prove my innocence, someone else has to prove I was wrong and they can't".
10) When grilled about the wrong usage of sensitve words or phrases which stirred up much protest or unhappiness , use Whoopi Goldberg's reply "The more you use it the less power it has"
11) When challenged by reporter that certain prominent people disbelieve in one's words retort with "If they do not believe us, that does not mean they speak the truth".
12) When asked whether one regrets certain actions which were clearly wrong with hindsight, maintain a stance of no regrets as the decision was deemed best under those circumstances.
Not sure whether the above can be applied when grilled by one's boss. However I guess you can use tactic no.2 (ie. focus on remedial actions or good things already in place)when you still need your pay packet. However if you do not need the pay packet so badly you may try tactic no.1 (telling him he may be irrelevant) or better still tactic no.6 (telling him he reserves the right to his own opinion and anyway once upon a time people did think the world is flat). That is when your resignation letter is already in your drawer.
The following are some ways which the interviewees handle them:
1) Repeatedly reiterate prepared answers. When challenged by the reporter for not really answering the question, simply retort "your question is irrelevant".
2) When probed as to the cause of certain failures, briefly remark that the situation has been very challenging then promptly and continuously focus on the steps which have already been taken to remedy or improve the situation.
3) When the reporter persistently wants to uncover the cause of some events, remarks like "this is an issue that requires context, it must be viewed in the new context" helps.
4) Motherhood statements and vague terms like "structural reforms are being taken" sound good without giving away any thing.
5)When pressed for more specific or concrete steps that have been taken, comment that the technicalities or details have yet to be finalised and can not be disclosed.
6)When reporter challenged one's statements by quoting comments from ordinary citizens that indicate otherwise, retort that individual views is not representative. When reporter quotes opinion from other prominent people resort to "it's a matter of judgement" or "well, once upon a time people thought the world is flat".
7) When queried about some bad image, admit "we do have a lot to do" or "the issue is rather complicated" but list all the things that have gone well including procedures or regulations which have always been in place.
8)When grilled for what will happen next, say " I am not a foreteller ".
9) When asked to comment about some personal wrong doings, deny without flinching and ask for concrete evidence. When challenged by the reporter that some other well known figures believe of one's wrong doings, remark "There is a lot of misrepresentation here, I don’t have to prove my innocence, someone else has to prove I was wrong and they can't".
10) When grilled about the wrong usage of sensitve words or phrases which stirred up much protest or unhappiness , use Whoopi Goldberg's reply "The more you use it the less power it has"
11) When challenged by reporter that certain prominent people disbelieve in one's words retort with "If they do not believe us, that does not mean they speak the truth".
12) When asked whether one regrets certain actions which were clearly wrong with hindsight, maintain a stance of no regrets as the decision was deemed best under those circumstances.
Not sure whether the above can be applied when grilled by one's boss. However I guess you can use tactic no.2 (ie. focus on remedial actions or good things already in place)when you still need your pay packet. However if you do not need the pay packet so badly you may try tactic no.1 (telling him he may be irrelevant) or better still tactic no.6 (telling him he reserves the right to his own opinion and anyway once upon a time people did think the world is flat). That is when your resignation letter is already in your drawer.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Impossible Wishes
Without fail well wishes are exchanged and prayed for every lunar new year, often without much deeper thoughts. In recent years when I utter some of these common greetings some doubt or apprehension would surface in my mind momentarily. For example when I wish someone 心想事成 a tinge of skeptism would flash in my mind as to whether anyone would really know what is best for themselves. Likewise would 万事如意 ever be possible in a person's life year after year. If it does wouldn't that render them unable to handle any obstacle or misfortune that occurs eventually. Wouldn't the desire for all good things lining up one after another make us miserable when that fails to happen? Don't we have to be cognisant of the fact that even happy situations do end as change occurs every moment?
During Chinese calligraphy class, the teacher passed around a book full of well meaning couplets as ideas for writing CNY scrolls. I struggled trying to read the chinese characters and understanding their meaning. Noticing my handicap the teacher read a loud for me some phrases which she herself liked whilst explaining their meaning. In the end I settled for 与 山 同 静, 隋地有春 . My understanding or personal interpretation of the phrases is that of a state of mind 'to have the calmness and quietude like that of the mountain and for spring to flourish everywhere'. Needless to say to achieve that is no mean feat. However I think it is at least achievable to varying degrees depending on mind training and resolve. Certainly it is a better bet than 万事如意 or 笑口常開 (always smiling).
During Chinese calligraphy class, the teacher passed around a book full of well meaning couplets as ideas for writing CNY scrolls. I struggled trying to read the chinese characters and understanding their meaning. Noticing my handicap the teacher read a loud for me some phrases which she herself liked whilst explaining their meaning. In the end I settled for 与 山 同 静, 隋地有春 . My understanding or personal interpretation of the phrases is that of a state of mind 'to have the calmness and quietude like that of the mountain and for spring to flourish everywhere'. Needless to say to achieve that is no mean feat. However I think it is at least achievable to varying degrees depending on mind training and resolve. Certainly it is a better bet than 万事如意 or 笑口常開 (always smiling).
Saturday, January 7, 2012
A Dream Interpretation
This is how a Jungian therapist interpretes a lady's dream:
Let's call this 52 year old dreamer Anna. In her dream Anna was 5 years old and her mother had brought her to school. She was frightened, cried and wanted to go home. She refused to let her mum leave. Her mum said she would come back shortly but Anna watched her leaving in a car. A girl who was sitting next to her smiled when Anna told her her name. Anna then woke up.
As the dream is about Anna being a child and not something which is physically possible, it is interpreted from a "subjective" stance. This means all the persons in the dream represent different parts of Anna's psyche. Hence it is an intra-psyche commentary. (This differs from an "objective" stance which is interpreted as a inter-psyche commentary between the dreamer and other people in a dream. An objective stance is applied when the situation in the dream is physically possible).
From a "subjective" stance, the mother in Anna's dream represents Anna's Mother complex. ( A mother complex is a potentially active component of everyone's psyche, informed first of all by experience of the personal mother, then by significant contact with other women and by collective assumptions). The little girl in the dream represents Anna's Shadow, a positive one as we shall soon see. (The positive shadow is the inner psyche which sets boundaries and is in control of a person's connection with the world).
The analyst first asked how Anna felt in the dream. In the dream Anna felt powerless and frightened. The analyst then went on to ask about her conscious attitude prior to her dream, meaning event or situation which preoccupies her. Anna shared that she was in a dilemma whether to place her mum who is suffering from dementia in a nursing home. Anna is a single mother and her mum had provided great support over the years in bringing up Anna's kids. However mum's current condition has deteriorated so much that Anna can not leave the old lady alone at home whilst she is out working. In fact Anna often has to resort to various tricks to get the old lady to perform her daily routine. Anna reckoned that she might have to trick her mum into agreeing to stay at the nursing home.
Next the analyst developed associations to the objects and experiences in the dream. First of all the analyst asked Anna to recall what went on when she was 5.
Anna's own parents divorced when she was 5. Her mother then brought her to live in another city. Anna's mother could not afford to put her in day care and had no choice but to put Anna in a school even before Anna was ready for it. Anna remembered being frightened of the bigger kids at school and was miserable for one whole year. Anna also recalled that her mum used to trick her and often left her at someone's home for a long time even though she promised to be back shortly. When she was older, Anna appreciated the dire circumstances they were in then and that her mum had not much choice. The little girl in the dream was her only friend in school.
The Jungian analyst describes the dream as an intra psyche commentary. Anna's inner psyche is sending her a powerful message that the situation which she is now facing is a mirror of the situation that her mum faced when Anna was 5. The positive Shadow and her Mother complex condone a little trickery and tell Anna that though she is sad she has no choice and that it is the best she could do for her mum under these circumstances.
As C.G.Jung once said:
"The dream is a little hidden door in the innermost and most secret recesses of the soul, opening into that cosmic night which was psyche long before there was any ego consciousness, and which will remain psyche no matter how far our ego-consciousness extends."
Let's call this 52 year old dreamer Anna. In her dream Anna was 5 years old and her mother had brought her to school. She was frightened, cried and wanted to go home. She refused to let her mum leave. Her mum said she would come back shortly but Anna watched her leaving in a car. A girl who was sitting next to her smiled when Anna told her her name. Anna then woke up.
As the dream is about Anna being a child and not something which is physically possible, it is interpreted from a "subjective" stance. This means all the persons in the dream represent different parts of Anna's psyche. Hence it is an intra-psyche commentary. (This differs from an "objective" stance which is interpreted as a inter-psyche commentary between the dreamer and other people in a dream. An objective stance is applied when the situation in the dream is physically possible).
From a "subjective" stance, the mother in Anna's dream represents Anna's Mother complex. ( A mother complex is a potentially active component of everyone's psyche, informed first of all by experience of the personal mother, then by significant contact with other women and by collective assumptions). The little girl in the dream represents Anna's Shadow, a positive one as we shall soon see. (The positive shadow is the inner psyche which sets boundaries and is in control of a person's connection with the world).
The analyst first asked how Anna felt in the dream. In the dream Anna felt powerless and frightened. The analyst then went on to ask about her conscious attitude prior to her dream, meaning event or situation which preoccupies her. Anna shared that she was in a dilemma whether to place her mum who is suffering from dementia in a nursing home. Anna is a single mother and her mum had provided great support over the years in bringing up Anna's kids. However mum's current condition has deteriorated so much that Anna can not leave the old lady alone at home whilst she is out working. In fact Anna often has to resort to various tricks to get the old lady to perform her daily routine. Anna reckoned that she might have to trick her mum into agreeing to stay at the nursing home.
Next the analyst developed associations to the objects and experiences in the dream. First of all the analyst asked Anna to recall what went on when she was 5.
Anna's own parents divorced when she was 5. Her mother then brought her to live in another city. Anna's mother could not afford to put her in day care and had no choice but to put Anna in a school even before Anna was ready for it. Anna remembered being frightened of the bigger kids at school and was miserable for one whole year. Anna also recalled that her mum used to trick her and often left her at someone's home for a long time even though she promised to be back shortly. When she was older, Anna appreciated the dire circumstances they were in then and that her mum had not much choice. The little girl in the dream was her only friend in school.
The Jungian analyst describes the dream as an intra psyche commentary. Anna's inner psyche is sending her a powerful message that the situation which she is now facing is a mirror of the situation that her mum faced when Anna was 5. The positive Shadow and her Mother complex condone a little trickery and tell Anna that though she is sad she has no choice and that it is the best she could do for her mum under these circumstances.
As C.G.Jung once said:
"The dream is a little hidden door in the innermost and most secret recesses of the soul, opening into that cosmic night which was psyche long before there was any ego consciousness, and which will remain psyche no matter how far our ego-consciousness extends."
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Euro & Life 10 years on
1st January 2012 marked the 10th anniversary of the Euro. Ten years ago at the stroke of midnight the Deutschmark together with some other European currencies ceased to be of legal tender. However the Euro was actually introduced in a non-physical form (traveller's cheques, electronic transfers, banking, etc.) at midnight on 1 January 1999. That was when the exchange rate of the currencies of participating countries (the eurozone) were locked at fixed rates against the Euro. The notes and coins for the old currencies, however, continued to be used as legal tender until new euro notes and coins were introduced on 1 January 2002. Whereas the Euro was full of promises 10 years ago it now is associated with crisis.
News about the Euro's 10th anniversary made me recall the preparation I and my ex-colleagues had to make just before 1999. The company had many outstanding contracts with contractors and suppliers from Germany, France and Italy. We had to make changes to our budgeting, purchasing and accounts payable software systems for the conversion into Euro. However it was not the technicalities I recalled. What I remembered was having one of our bankers over to brief all our users, mainly engineers from various departments, about the new currency and the technicalities involving payments etc. It was a large gathering. If I am not mistaken it was held in our theatrette. Because of the very friendly and collegial atmosphere, I remembered the banker making a remark that the gathering was like a big family reunion. Yes, back in 1999 the company was like a big family. Other than minor squabbles between departments, people are generally co-operative and there was little or no back stabbing. Those were really good times and the work life balance was wonderful (if not a bit underweight on 'work' haha). I was able to knock off at 6 pm to spend time with my kids in the evenings.
Come to think of it, my generation is quite fortunate. At least we had many years of comfortable life relative to the long hours that the current workforce had to put in. But I always wonder whether the current work culture is peculiar only to Singapore and certain Asian countries. If so how is it other countries can manage with shorter working hours and a more balanced lifestyle. I think we are brain washed through years of political reminders that we need to strive to succeed as the country lacks natural resources. The national archetype is hence that of efficiency and hardwork. To this end the government has probably succeeded but it now faces the problem of low fertility rate when its people have no time and energy to raise kids.
Well even governments like ours and the European Union are hit by curve balls. Maybe it is a reminder to avoid having tunnel visions and being overly confident of apparent best line of actions.
News about the Euro's 10th anniversary made me recall the preparation I and my ex-colleagues had to make just before 1999. The company had many outstanding contracts with contractors and suppliers from Germany, France and Italy. We had to make changes to our budgeting, purchasing and accounts payable software systems for the conversion into Euro. However it was not the technicalities I recalled. What I remembered was having one of our bankers over to brief all our users, mainly engineers from various departments, about the new currency and the technicalities involving payments etc. It was a large gathering. If I am not mistaken it was held in our theatrette. Because of the very friendly and collegial atmosphere, I remembered the banker making a remark that the gathering was like a big family reunion. Yes, back in 1999 the company was like a big family. Other than minor squabbles between departments, people are generally co-operative and there was little or no back stabbing. Those were really good times and the work life balance was wonderful (if not a bit underweight on 'work' haha). I was able to knock off at 6 pm to spend time with my kids in the evenings.
Come to think of it, my generation is quite fortunate. At least we had many years of comfortable life relative to the long hours that the current workforce had to put in. But I always wonder whether the current work culture is peculiar only to Singapore and certain Asian countries. If so how is it other countries can manage with shorter working hours and a more balanced lifestyle. I think we are brain washed through years of political reminders that we need to strive to succeed as the country lacks natural resources. The national archetype is hence that of efficiency and hardwork. To this end the government has probably succeeded but it now faces the problem of low fertility rate when its people have no time and energy to raise kids.
Well even governments like ours and the European Union are hit by curve balls. Maybe it is a reminder to avoid having tunnel visions and being overly confident of apparent best line of actions.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Train Sagas
Before I discuss the train saga in Singapore let me share my own personal saga in the tube in Rome. It is a bit surprising that Rome is still quite crowded in winter. My husband takes pride in navigating the subway of cities thus saving much money on conducted city tours. Unfortunately he has a dumb witted wife who often appears as an easy target for pick pockets. It was sunset when son, husband and me pushed ourselves into a subway carriage at Spagna station. Both men managed to force their way about 2 steps from the entrance. However much as I tried I was blocked by a dark skinned lady wrapped in a big shawl. We looked each other in the eyes hesitating who should move into the carriage. When she finally let me, I was near my men. At this point I noticed my squarish handbag which I carried across my shoulder facing front half zipped. Immediately I checked the content and found my wallet missing. I muttered aloud that my wallet was missing. Instantaneously I figured that the woman who blocked my way was the thief. I squeezed up to her and exclaimed "Hey I think you took my wallet!" Almost split second another lady standing a person away from the first lady tapped my shoulder and pointed to a wallet on the floor and asked me whether I dropped it. I picked up my wallet in relief whilst still stunned. At this moment a seat was vacated and I plonked myself on it. The credit cards were in tact. Until this day I don't understand why I did not check the middle compartment (where the unfolded notes are usually placed)promptly. The fact was I actually paused awhile before checking for the notes. When I finally came to check the middle compartment and found the 200 Euro missing, the 2 ladies had alighted at the next stop. Fortunately some other notes in the zipped compartment of my wallet were in tact. Mind you I also had another fabric pouch containing passport, money and credit cards worn around my neck and hidden in the midst of layers of clothing (This is called contingency planning haha). Well the modus operandi as I figured it was woman no.1 took my wallet beneath her shawl whilst pressed against me. She then passed it to woman no.2. When I confronted woman no.1, woman no.2 dropped the wallet and alerted me to it. Why did she have to do that? Even had we searched woman no.1 we wouldn't be able to find anything on her. I guess they feared some other passengers might have noticed they came in as a pair or something. Well this is the third time I was pickpocketd in my life. Things do really happened 3 times and I hope it will stop there, otherwise I can write a guide on how to avoid being pick pocketed.
Needless to say my husband's holiday was partially spoilt by the train saga in Singapore. Poor him, he had to render advice on phone admist the Italian mayhem and merry making in those little cosy restaurants. Well this is not the platform for me to discuss what I gathered to be the likely cause of the great Singapore train disruptions. My own personal deduction may also run awry with the political explanation or vice versa. My only comment is just as pick pockets use the appropriate modus operandi for the right situation, Singapore may need to review the model upon which its transport system is run. Hopefully they are not as dumb witted as me who fell prey a third time round.
Needless to say my husband's holiday was partially spoilt by the train saga in Singapore. Poor him, he had to render advice on phone admist the Italian mayhem and merry making in those little cosy restaurants. Well this is not the platform for me to discuss what I gathered to be the likely cause of the great Singapore train disruptions. My own personal deduction may also run awry with the political explanation or vice versa. My only comment is just as pick pockets use the appropriate modus operandi for the right situation, Singapore may need to review the model upon which its transport system is run. Hopefully they are not as dumb witted as me who fell prey a third time round.
Sunday, December 4, 2011
Lost qualities
A psychology professor in Berkeley shared her opinion on spontaneous compassion, how it can be lost and regained. Years ago she met with an accident which resulted in some head injuries that broke various blood vessels causing excessive blood flow into her face. Her face became swollen and took on several ugly colour disfiguration for a few months. Whilst convalescing in a centre she observed how uncomfortable adults were when interacting with her. They tried to avoid looking straight at her face whilst not knowing where to shift their eyes. She reckoned people dared not look at her for fear of being perceived as staring. To save themselves and her from perceived embarrassment they avoided her altogether.
In the centre were 2 children, a 8 year old girl and a 10 year old low functioning austistic boy. One day the girl approached the professor and told her straight in the face that she looked like a monster. However she did not withdraw in fear but instead engaged the professor in a lively conversation. They became friends and went on to play some "Monster will catch you" game.
The other child in the centre was an autistic boy who knew only 3 words, the name of his brother, the name of his caregiver and the word 'chocolate'. The boy had an uncanny sense of which passer-by had chocolates in their pockets or bag and would approach them and mutter the word 'chocolate' haltingly. In this way he would get to eat what he loved. One day the child crept up beside the professor (who was feeling very down) and muttered the chocolate word. The professor explained that she did not have any chocolate with her. The boy looked at her face, slowly pulled out a chocolate bar from his pocket and gave it to her.
2 things strike me in this episode:
-The autistic boy despite being very very low in the scale of most types of intelligencies, in my opinion scored very high in 'interpersonal intelligence' because of his ability to empathize. He seemed to possess a heightened sensitivity to the moods of others and an ability to heal through non verbal mode, ie. through an expression of the soul.
-The girl too seemed to fare better than the adults through her unconditional acceptance. Hers is an example of spontaneity and authenticity.
Do we lose such abilities as we grow up? Are they pushed to the background whilst we focus on other more 'useful' intellectual skills?
Can we regain or reconstruct these impaired abilities? Can we reactivate these positive qualities? I believe we can.
In the centre were 2 children, a 8 year old girl and a 10 year old low functioning austistic boy. One day the girl approached the professor and told her straight in the face that she looked like a monster. However she did not withdraw in fear but instead engaged the professor in a lively conversation. They became friends and went on to play some "Monster will catch you" game.
The other child in the centre was an autistic boy who knew only 3 words, the name of his brother, the name of his caregiver and the word 'chocolate'. The boy had an uncanny sense of which passer-by had chocolates in their pockets or bag and would approach them and mutter the word 'chocolate' haltingly. In this way he would get to eat what he loved. One day the child crept up beside the professor (who was feeling very down) and muttered the chocolate word. The professor explained that she did not have any chocolate with her. The boy looked at her face, slowly pulled out a chocolate bar from his pocket and gave it to her.
2 things strike me in this episode:
-The autistic boy despite being very very low in the scale of most types of intelligencies, in my opinion scored very high in 'interpersonal intelligence' because of his ability to empathize. He seemed to possess a heightened sensitivity to the moods of others and an ability to heal through non verbal mode, ie. through an expression of the soul.
-The girl too seemed to fare better than the adults through her unconditional acceptance. Hers is an example of spontaneity and authenticity.
Do we lose such abilities as we grow up? Are they pushed to the background whilst we focus on other more 'useful' intellectual skills?
Can we regain or reconstruct these impaired abilities? Can we reactivate these positive qualities? I believe we can.
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